Enjoy your Lunch, It's all about Social Networking

Have you ever really hard to hold yourself on tweeting and posting all the things that pass your mind? Or you've been trying so hard to keep your good image, even your bad image in social network? Yap! these times, even to be a bad boy you need to sharp your own self and the people opinion. I don't really understand, since when did it become so important, building the image on the public. Or maybe you're the kind of people who daily and loyally scroll down the timeline of someone you like? let's simply call it stalking. hahaha i'm one of them.

But for me, the most fun part of Social Networking is not the opportunity to build an image for yourself, even it works well indeed. For me, it's fun when you're enjoy playing alter ego and let people respond your stupid attitude with a serious view while you can only laugh. They act like they know all the best, start to say what is good for you and what they probably do if they were you. Hey, you have to appreciate their good willing for you anyway, but you have the right to take or leave it, it's all up to you. And the right to laugh freely in the back is your biggest joy :D

Sometimes, it's quite surprising that even your closest person start to respond with a serious way as well and worry about what people might think, like she/he doesn't know you at all. Yes sometimes, these little things grow to be some massive problems. And you're just keep wondering, "how could you judge me like that? Who you are, stranger of my life?"

I remind you, don't really get surprised if the purpose of your attitude just for fun. Fun for you, it's not always fun for them. And maybe this is the time to know who can really understand you.

Life is fun, too much fun, and social networking make it complete (if you don't wanna say make it stupid) ...

For you My Girl

Aku ingin menyampaikan sesuatu yang selama ini telah membantuku merasa sangat bahagia satu tahun ini. Satu tahun yang kupikir sebelumnya akan sangat berat untuk dilewati. Satu tahun yang membayangkan saja aku ngeri. Satu tahun setelah kita kehilangan orang yang pernah berada di separuh hatimu. Aku tidak bermaksud mengenang masa lalu dan mengabaikan bagaimana perasaan pasanganku sekarang jika membaca ini.
Aku malah ingin berterimakasih pada dia yang sekarang telah membantuku melewati semua ini.

Aku ingin menulis untuk salah satu sahabat terbaikku yang mungkin sedang mengalami saat terberat yang pernah kualami. Ini bukan tulisan melankolik seperti yang kamu harapkan, tapi akan terlihat cengeng sekaligus arogan di beberapa tempat.

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Dear you my girl, i don't know how should i start to tell you about this. I mean if i said that i lost my half heart one year ago, maybe you'll say that you lost your full heart some months ago. Love is all about giving all the best for someone you think really special at the time that we hope to be eternal flame. The best is the best for us who has been giving so much effort to make it work. But whe should realize at the very end, the ammount for the best sometimes pretty blur at all. We said it's all my best, but for him that's nothing, not enough and there are so much better than we gave. He could gave us much more better effort and sure he ask the worth pay with his own standard.

Actually that's not a big problem if the communication works well. But sometimes how much you say that you love him, there still a big wall stand up beyond you and him. There are so much points that you force to fit on him. Then you're getting too bussy ignoring and merging your differences because both of you had already said that you accept and love him just the way he is. But how long it would last for "just the way you are?" One year, two years, three years, four years? Waiting the time bomb to explode. And you forgot to enjoy the togetherness itself, with all kind the differences still exist. That's love who let both of you live with your own characters, no need too much change to love each other.

You have so much pain, so has your boyfriend. When you feel so tired you have to recognize that the love is disappear right now. There should be no tired in loving! And both of you pushing it so hard to add just one more time, one more year, one more chance to find that miracle. You said it miracle, because now you understand how hard it is to reunite the broken glass. What are you looking for right now? The existence of relationship?

Let it go.. I know you've been trying so hard, giving all the best, so has him.

It's the time when you have to find the answer by yourself. Could you let someone you love go when he said you hurt him? When he ask you just go away and leave him alone? When he tell you there's someone better than you right now? When he tell you that you make him feel so tired? When he give up on everything that you've been pushing together?

Girl, hold up your head high. We're too young for being too sad and feel sorry too deep on this life. And we never really know what is love so clear. But when you're trying to understand your own heart, it's you who could free all his pain.

There are so much ways to make yourself stronger right now, after a half your heart went away. I think every girl knows well how to wipe the grey away. Let yourself get the joy and the optimism, see even your fingers are beautiful. Do your hobbies with your beautiful fingers, now it's completely yours. Those fingers that you used to get the scar tissues before. Well, there are will be some stage of sadness who come and go anytime they want. They'll ruin your mood easily, bring you back to some sweet memories that hurt your heart. And you cry again and again, make you swear this is the last cry, but it won't.

Then you keep wondering how could someone go to another heart easily. You curse at them, say that they are ignorant and heartless people. Hey honey, i'm one of them. I let someone come in to my heart again too fast, too early, that's what i thought before. Maybe God love me as well, or maybe He tests my patience in waiting The Mr. Right. But, when you're in my position you'll understand this is your affirmation of your own said a long long time ago. "Maybe we have to meet the wrong person before we meet the right person".

I'm just so happy right now that i could let everything flow with my Trust in God. I'm not find the better person, but i've just found someone who fit me more. We have so much differences in taste and thought, but we hate the same things. We are not good people at all, do so much stupid things but we try find the way to get better, together. Not trying to change each other to be what we want, but listen more, learn  more, don't agree more, understand more.

You, just don't get too sad, let yourself happy. Let someone out there find your bright shines, let him find your unique character, you specific personality and try to do the same things on him.

Then the last thing, Why in hurry? we're just too young..



#Soundtrack: Bruno Mars - When i was your man, Hoobastank - The Reason, Billy Joel - Just The Way You Are

Aku ingin Jogja Mencintai dirinya sendiri

Jogja adalah kota yang membuatku penasaran sejak jaman SD. Kecintaanku pada majalah bekas menarikku membaca sebuah artikel tentang kota Jogja. Sebuah kota yang memberi ruang publik yang lebih banyak bagi para pesepeda, pejalan kaki dan kutu buku. Membayangkan bersepeda di bawah pohon-pohon rindang yang jauh dari polusi sambil menikmati anggunnya Merapi dari kejauhan. Lalu duduk di sebuah taman kota untuk membaca buku. Dalam benakku memang tertanam image bahwa Jogja adalah kota Pelajar. Lalu Mengapa wisatawan berbondong-bondong ke Jogja?

Ternyata Mereka sebut juga Jogja sebagai kota Budaya. Aku yakin warga Jogja asli tidak begitu merasa spesial disebut seperti itu. Karena warga Jogja hanya menjalani kehidupan dengan tradisi yang mereka cintai dan mendapatkan kenyamanan selama ini. Namun, warga dari luar kota berbondong-bondong ingin mengetahui resep rahasia “Jogja Berhati Nyaman” tersebut. Wisatawan mancanegara maupun domestik datang ke Jogja untuk wisata Budaya.

Harapanku semoga Masyarakat Jogja asli memahami daya tarik yang mereka miliki. Bukan pembangunan fisik dan kemudahan-kemudahan bertransaksi seperti kota Metropolitan lainnya yang harusnya ditingkatkan. Namun budaya-budaya dan nilai luhur keseharian mereka yang selama ini menjadi panutan masyarakat dari kota lain. Aku ingin Jogja nyaman menjadi dirinya sendiri sebelum memberi kenyamanan bagi pendatang. Aku ingin Jogja mencintai budayanya sendiri tetapi juga berwawasan luas. Sehingga seluruh masyarakat Jogja percaya diri menyambut wisatawan sebagai dirinya sendiri. Bukan menjual “Bakso Solo”, “Pecel Madiun”, “Penyetan Lamongan” walaupun sebenarnya mereka asli Jogja. Aku yakin kekhasan budaya lokal mampu membawa kesejahteraan ekonomi bagi warga Jogja sebagai dampak pariwisata.

Jika masyarakat Jogja telah mampu percaya diri dengan budayanya, aku yakin banyaknya pendatang musiman (Wisatawan) dan pendatang semi permanen (Pelajar) tidak membuat warga Jogja risih. Aku ingin warga Jogja mau terbuka bagi kami para pendatang. Membagi budaya jawa yang arif dan sangat kaya. Mengajak memakai batik yang modis dari pada hotpants, mengajak makan di angkringan, mengajak menonton pertunjukkan tarian Ramayana dan sebagainya. Namun kecintaan tersebut tidak membawa masyarakat Jogja menjadi primordialis dan kaku. Justru sebaliknya juga mampu mebuat warga Jogja menghargai budaya para pendatang untuk bekerja bersama-sama demi kemajuan Kota Jogja.

Dan hal terakhir yang tidak kalah penting adalah Aku ingin Jogja menjaga dan melestarikan alamnya. Mencintai budaya seharusnya diperindah dengan mecintai alam.  Karena Alam lah yang selama ini menaungi kita untuk mengembangkan Budaya. Jika kita tidak bisa membuatnya tumbuh subur, paling tidak  janga merusaknya, jangan menyakitinya. Lakukan hal-hal kecil yang tidak perlu mengambil waktu kita yang katanya mahal. Ini semua bukan tentang menanam mangrove dan pohon jati untuk diliput media atau dibawa ke jejaring sosial. Ini lebih pada berkegiatan dan berwisata dengan arif. Tidak membuang sampah itu harus, namun kerusakan vegetasi adalah masalah serius. Kadang arti mencintai yang sejati adalah rela memujanya dari kejauhan dan membiarkan dia tumbuh senatural mungkin. Mampukah kita membiarkan alam kita lestari menggeliat indah tanpa ke sok tahuan kita?

Barang Hilang

Hari ini ku kehilangan dompet jajan yang berisi kartu atm dan uang sekitar 30ribuan.

Pacarku mengomel sepanjang jalan

Aku masih tidak paham mengapa dia terus mengataiku

Kenapa dia terus berusaha membuatku tidak ikhlas dalam keikhlasanku

Padahal sering dia bilang, daripada mengomeliku beri saja aku uang

Aku tidak minta uang, aku minta diantar pulang

Dia terus menyuruhku mengingat-ingat

Kami pun lalu menyusuri tempat kami sesorean tadi satu-satu

Kalaupun ketinggalan pasti sudah diambil orang katanya

Aku heran saja, sudah tau begitu kenapa mengajak mencari?

Sepertinya dia hanya bingung dengan kekesalannya sendiri

Kekesalan atas kenyataan bahwa aku tidak kesal

Kekesalan bahwa aku mudah saja membiarkan "yang berharga" hilang begitu saja

Jangan lagi bilang, "kalau dengan barangmu saja kau seenaknya, bagaimana dengan cintamu?"

Aku sudah pernah dengar sayang, ketika sepedaku hilang

Ketakutan seseorang yang menyamakan dirinya sendiri dengan barang

...yang memang layak hilang

Kamu jangan takut :)

Ingatkah ketika kau kutraktir makan ketika sepatu reebokmu hilang?

Kreatiflah dalam mencinta, it's all about timing!